Sunday, November 6, 2011

How long do the CSA have to contact you if someone 'thinks' that they have had your child?

The CSA can contact you up until the child is 16 or leaves school. I met a guy many years ago when I was very young and the first time we had I conceived my son on Dec 27th what's wrong with that? Anyway to cut a long story short my son is nearly 15 now and although the father admitted to me that he was his he has never ever seen or paid towards the upbringing of his son. I contacted the CSA about 5 years ago and I had found out so much (where he was living and who he worked for) and they just kept on messing up, losing my file etc and in the end I gave up. The only way to resolve this is to have a DNA test, at the end of the day the child in question has a right to know who their father is and if it was 10 years ago then the child is at an age where he/she can make a decision on whether or not he/she wants to know about her father and his family. If it is proved that your partner is the father then he has a responsibility to the child and you will have to accept that, it isn't the child's fault. For all you know she may have given up on your husband having a part in her child's life as he has made no real effort in his/her upbringing. The only way to put your mind at ease is to have a DNA test, if you can't afford one you could always ask Jeremy Kyle lol! Hope you manage to work things out. My son's attitude towards his father that he has never bothered with him so he has no reason to bother with him. Your partner should consider this as the child in question (if turned out to be his) may reject him and he may not like that once he realises that he has missed out on his child's life. Good luck for the future.

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